The male perspective on weddings.
To register or not to register. That is the question.
My bride to be and I have been together for 9 years. We have everything that we need. We have owned a house together. If we want something, we save up and buy it. No longer are we like our parent’s generation who were married at such a young age that they did not have many of the necessities of life yet. That was a time when a tea towel really was something that was needed as a wedding present.But that time has passed and so now we are left with the dilemma of what to do for a wedding register.
While our parents generation lacked the basics of home life, they have now left my generation with the financial struggles associated with trying to own your own home. Our parents purchased their first homes when land was still plentiful and then rode the property market to the top leaving little hope for our generation to own the home of their dreams. But i digress….
Further adding to our dilemma is the fact that we are getting married in New Zealand, but we live in Australia. We will already have full bags flying home, so we have no room for presents.
As we are keen travellers, we are more interested in having a travel fund so that we can afford a nice honeymoon after the wedding. We have heard a lot of comments in the past however, where our parent’s generation feel funny about giving money and not something physical.
Is it wrong to want something that we would really enjoy, rather than tangible items of kitchen ware which we don’t really need? Or should we play roulette and give our guests the freedom to pick their own gifts?